You Complete Me

Jerry Maguire – “You complete me.”

If you have not watched the incredibly weird romantic comedy Jerry Maguire, you should. As a self-proclaimed rom com aficionado it has been one of the weirdest movies I have watched. Just the romance and the fast-pace and the characters. Don’t get me wrong, it was good. Definitely one you need to watch if you love romantic comedies/sports movies.

It is known for the iconic line of “you complete me”, said by Jerry Maguire (played by Tom Cruise) to his wife in the movie. Along with “show me the money” but that’s not what we’re focusing on here my dudes.

There is still this misconception out in the world about soul mates and people completing each other. Well, I am your friendly neighbourhood Ashley informing you this is a very dangerous lie.

No one in this world will complete you. Humans are fickle, fickle creatures. They die, they disappoint, they change. We feel there is something missing because we were intended to be in relationship with Christ and we were torn from that.

Yet, even with this piece of our soul missing, we are still whole beings, because there is nothing other than God that can complete us. You can look for it in whatever you so desire. People, materials, jobs, looks, etc,. The pursuit of purpose and completion has led many astray because the world claims to have the answers.

If you find a way to be happy with yourself, you will feel complete. It is all about self-love.

If you have the hottest guy or girl on your arm, and they see the real ‘you’ and love you, then you are complete.

If you have the biggest house and the nicest car, you’re complete. Full.

We seek these things to complete ourselves, and are shocked when the fickle, temporary things of this world leave us emptier than ever. Especially in the sense of sex.

What is the first thing we tell kids about sex?

Well when a mommy and daddy love each other. We are conditioned to associate sex with love and love with being whole. Sex can exist outside of love and love certainly exists outside of sex.

There is this idea that maybe if you just find what makes you happy you will finally feel full or whole. People are told in their emptiness that they can do something to make themselves total again. So they have more sex. They work harder. Maybe they create a new habit in an attempt to finally stop the emptiness. Maybe if they just get happiness.

Happiness is as fickle as the wind itself.

It changes direction.

It can blow in a full gust one moment and come to a dead silence in the next.

Happiness is not a permanent thing someone can achieve and if our entire pursuit of life is in the name of happiness we will come up empty every single time. We will feel incomplete.

If we try to fill that hole with love, thinking it will finally stop the aches and pains, we are only going to find them worsened. In sex especially. Sex is not only a physical action, it is a spiritual encounter. Souls intertwine. You become one. Yet people are shocked when they leave one night stands, long-lasting but broken relationships, feeling more empty and broken than when they entered.

If you are looking to fill the void with something on earth, I am here to tell you that you are going to end up on your hands and knees all over again in pain. Nothing completes us. Humans especially.

Friends and relationships are awesome.

Having a significant other you believe is your other half is dangerous because what happens when they make mistakes? Are your expectations going to be shattered because you put them on a pedestal? How are you going to move past it?

God is the only thing that can complete us.

We were created for HIM.

WE decided to pull away and create a tear which carries out throughout the generations.

You want to know why you feel uneasy? Why you feel lost? You are looking towards empty, meaningless things to fill what you cannot see.

Our world does an incredible disservice towards people by giving a list of things to make you feel like you have a purpose and to ease the pain. We talk about self-actualization as if it actually helps. When realistically any pursuit of this earth will ultimately leave you craving and thirsting for more because Jesus is the Bread of Life and the Living Water.

God made us to be in fellowship with each other but He did not make us to worship one another. We are a body in Christ but we are each a piece, not one part.

I was just thinking about the movie when I was thinking of what to write for my next couple blog posts and it just came to mind. We hurt ourselves with every claim to solvent, when the only true solution is not on this earth but outside of it.

God, thank you for completing my puzzle. Thank you for creating me whole in you and giving me you on top of it. God I pray for the hurt, lost, and searching. Be near to them Father. Guide their eyes and mind in you. Bring their soul closer to you. Lord you are our soul mate. You are the one our soul longs for. The one our souls need to be at peace and rest. I pray this truth would be made known to all those looking for their purpose or for something to stop the ache.

I pray against the forces of Satan which would push your children towards greed, drugs, alcohol, sex, gluttony, or any of these instant gratification solutions that only leave us further in the dirt with our heads down. Lift our eyes instead to you. Soothe the curiosity and search for you.

God I want my only hunger to be for more of your presence. Let the fire continue to burn so that I pursue you harder than ever. Give me a passion and drive to search deeper into your Word. You say if we seek you, we will find you, so long as we seek you with our whole hearts. My whole heart is seeking and pushing God, diving deeper into your love. Give me more of it please, for your children, to spread your Kingdom.

Father I pray my only thirst would be for your knowledge and your son. As you quench it and fill up my cup, may it pour out onto others. Give me more of that living water, like an ocean rushing over me, so I can pass it on to others. Thank you Lord for being the fulfillment of my soul. I am found wholly and contented in You an You only.

Thank you Jesus,

Amen.

There is a reason every human struggles with ‘who they are’, ‘what they are supposed to do’, and ‘why they never feel satisfied’. It’s because we were made in full satisfaction of Christ and until we have Him, we can never be truly happy. Not that the pursuit of happiness should be our path.

Happiness is fleeting.

We want Joy. Love. Peace. Patience. Kindness. Goodness. Faithfulness. Gentleness. Self-Control. The Fruit of the Spirit and something stronger than a fleeting emotion. We want character growth in the character of Christ.

Just fruit for thought.

HAHAHA see what I did there? Either way…

God bless!

~ Ashley

P.S. I have watched probably a hundred romantic comedies and some of them are pretty weird, but there was just something about Jerry Maguire. I think it’s actually because of Tom Cruise’s character. Not a lot of male characters are written the way he was….